Changing your script

We all have something that bugs us, but sometimes we don't recognize how much it does...

Have you ever had a topic that unknowingly makes it into almost ALL your conversations or is a frequent topic you like to bring up? Let me explain…

One summer, I hired a lawncare guy to rearrange the perennials in by yard because he took care of the yard across the street and I thought he was professional. He gladly took the job, but didn’t accept a down payment because he said “in case I don’t finish” (red flag). So, he started and took all the plants out and set aside what was going to be replaced elsewhere in the project. He, cleaned up later in the day and went on. He said he would return later that week, but he did not and if he cut the yard across the street, he did it when I was away, sleep etc. Point is, I didn’t see him for quite some time. You know the old adage: Days turn into weeks. Weeks turned into years… etc.

By the time I did see him, he would wave, but I didn’t respond and to this day, I don’t even bother to look that way. For the summer and apparently, for quite some time, I would bring this up as a “Guess what happened to me, blah blah blah…” I found myself mentioning this story anytime it fit in.

One day, I was speaking to someone, and I can’t remember what or how they said it, but it was basically “I think it is time for you to put that sword down. You have been talking about that for quite some time now and I bet he is over it and not even thinking about you or your yard!) Harsh, huh! (Well, that is the way I heard it). The point is-I had to recognize that if that person is telling me to turn the page, others were probably tired of me talking about it. Why was I carrying on with this? Why couldn’t I let it go? I had since then “fixed” the yard myself and I had physically moved on, but my mind was in a holding pattern with that incident.

So, I made an effort to leave that in my “rear view mirror” and I haven’t hardly mentioned it for years. What situation is living rent-free in your head that frequently comes up in conversations? Ever thought about it and why you can’t let it go? I am going to give you a chance to think about it and let's start a conversation in the comments. Hope you enjoyed this article. See ya’ next time….